Marriage:  When Tony and I first become engaged in March of 2013, I can't even being to tell you how many people said "finally", as if marriage was an expectation that they had for us, regardless of our readiness.  When it came time to plan our wedding, it was around convenience and what would make us happy rather than what would meet others' expectations.

Children:  Since getting married, many people have begun to ask "so when are you having kids".  I believe that asking someone about their plans for childbirth is not only personal but extremely nosey and presumptuous.  How do they know I want to have children?  How do they know if I'm not already trying?  How do they know if I'm even capable.  When Tony and I plan to have children, I can guarantee that we won't be letting other people in on our decision until we are ready to do so. 

Career: I find that the further I get from my undergraduate graduation (and the growing number of my friends getting careers),I found myself putting a lot of pressure on myself for not having a career of a salary-paying job. It has been frustrating to not be able to contribute money to my family, and not have a career when people ask "what do you do?".